Sunday, April 11, 2010
what does that have to do with me?
we watched jordyn for about 12 hrs on saterday.....it was a nice day and they played outside for alot of the day. now my mother insists that i need new clothes, i hate going shopping, it makes me physically ill! i just wish clothes would appear in my closet! when i get my book published the first thing i will do is hire a professional shopper!
anyway mom and i are shopping online while the girls are outside playing, jordyn comes in and says "aunt sarah, star stuck her tongue out at me" i studder and stammer and come up with "ok, what does that have to do with me? what am i supposed to do about that?" she didn't know how to respond to those questions and just went back outside to play. i looked at mom and said "what was i supposed to say to that?" she says "come on you have been a mom for a long time" "yes but never to more than one child at a time." melanie and colt are 8 yrs apart and colt and star are 10 yrs apart.
"you say,' tell star i said that was not nice and not to do that again', that way you are acknowledging that you care about their problem and when star hears that, she will come in and tell her side of the story...." so we waited, but neither of them came back in to tell on the other. it occurred to me, well made me wonder, either i am incapable in interpersonal communications and they gave up on trying to relate to me, or i handled it right by forcing them to work it out themselves......? it is not as easy as it looks to be insane!